You’ve been out of the dating game for quite some time, and now that you’re single again, i’m sure you’re feeling pretty intimidated and unsure about putting yourself out there again. Well, you can’t stay single forever, so you have to do something about it. Women and mens opinions about what is attractive in a mate differ slightly, but there are some common do’s and don’ts that you should adhere to if you want to get that number or a date.
Do…
Ask Questions: Not a million of them but enough of them that show you’re interested in people other than yourself. Asking questions also shows that you want to get to know someone better.
Make Eye Contact: Looking someone in the eyes when you talk to them shows respect, that you’re listening to what they have to say, and that they have your undivided attention. If you’re a woman, be sure to wear lash extensions and flattering eyeshadow. He won’t be able to take his eyes off of yours.
Give Out a Few Compliments: If you like someone’s shirt, say so. If you enjoy their choice of restaurant, tell them. Little things like this will make your date or prospective date feel comfortable and good about their choices.
Say Thank You: Having gratitude is important in all parts of life, but during a date or when meeting someone for the first time, it’s very important to be gracious and have good manners.
Find Common Ground: Try to find out if they like the same type of music as you, or have an affinity for your favorite actor or author. These things will make the conversation flow easier and establish if there is compatibility between you.
Don’t…
Make Suggestive Comments or Crude Jokes: No one likes a sleaze ball who makes jokes about sex and bodily functions over dinner. You’re not ten years old, and it’s too soon to push boundaries like that. She doesn’t want to hear about the size of your …, and she will be so turned off that your chances will be slim to none by the time you drop her off at her door.
Talk About Your Last Relationship or Problems: Unless someone asks, there is no need to go on and on about your last lover and what was wrong with them or the relationship. It’s also important not to go into sympathetic overdrive with someone you just met. Don’t be a downer. They don’t want to play your shrink all night, and it makes your date or love interest think that you’re not over your ex, and if your date is looking for something long term, you don’t want them to think that you’re on the rebound.
Sing The Me, Me, Me’s: Talking about yourself the entire time you’re with someone makes them think that you could be self-absorbed or disinterested in them and their life, interests, and goals. Sing that song for too long, and you’ll be a solo artist for the next forever.
Gloat Too Much: If you’re proud of yourself for something, there’s nothing wrong with mentioning it, but if you’re constantly yapping about what you’ve done and where you’ve been, it won’t end well. Men and women love to show off their proud moments, but it can quickly snowball into one-upping someone by trying to top what they’ve done. No one wants to waste their time with someone who turns every convo into a pissing contest.
Drink Too Much: If you get a little goofy and fun, that’s fine. If your date has to walk you to a cab or keep you from throwing up all over your shoes, they may be reluctant to get your digits or call for a second date.
Ask To Come Upstairs: If it happens on its own, fine, but don’t force the issue or make it an option. Remember, you’re newly single, and sex can complicate things. It’s too early for that, and she might be uncomfortable with too much physical contact too soon.
Now that we’ve discussed the do’s and don’ts in detail, you should be ready to hit the club, grocery store, or blind date with the right idea about your conduct and how to get that second date or phone call. Happy Dating!